A new kind of love

‘Love’ is always about what’s good for me. We often think of love as being selfless, about another person, something we ‘give’ to someone. But I’m going to tell you we’re wrong. Love is all about me and what you can do for me. Shocking, well yes.

We love what is good for us.

Think about it. No one dates someone else because it's good for that person. They do it because it's good for them. I believe in the same way no one really loves another person, their love is their awareness of their feelings for their own soul when it is made joyful by another’s presence. Paradoxically almost, since we invariably direct our feelings of love outward and identify them with the beloved, love is actually an inherently selfish act. We love what is good for us, or more precisely, we love our self when someone else is good for it. If we see this, maybe we can see that we don't really need anyone else to find that same love, which is always anyway a love of self.

I can give myself all the love I need.

So the lesson is we can make our own soul feel good and be in love with ourselves by actively loving ourselves. By being kind, by paying attention, by living a life fully, and getting what we want and deserve. Remember it's about what's good for me, I don't need and can't always count on someone else to give me what's good for me, if I do I will probably be disappointed. I can give myself all the love I need.

You can love yourself.

What can you do To give yourself a better life? what can you do to be happy and fulfilled? Simply put you can love yourself.

You are love.

When you align with your soul energy, you align with love, because that is what the soul is. That is what you are at your most fundamental level.